When you’ve been ripped off, when you’ve been conned, when you’ve been dragged into somebody else’s madness…it makes you mad too. The closer you get to their madness, it’s not as if the closer you get to some truth. You begin to feel that you’re crazy yourself.
…I mean, one of the things that happens, when you are conned, is that you also blame yourself. It’s as if somebody comes up behind you, with a hammer, and hits you over the head, and then you spend weeks of your life thinking: well if I’d put my head over there and over there then this man wouldn’t have hit me over the head with a hammer.
Hanif Kureishi, BBC Radio 4 Today Programme, December 1st, 2014
You blame yourself and feel the shame of being shafted. Especially if you feel implicated in the whole sorry saga by your own indecent greed, vanity, stupidity, insecurity or whatever it was that marked you out as prey. The more deeply you get embroiled, the more you take on a share of the con-artist’s madness.